Praying in front of Sufi shrines is akin to idloism?

When you believe in Tauheed, why do you feel the need to defend it by making spiteful remarks against idol-ism? If we believe in Allah, why is it difficult for us to accept idolatry in other faiths? Shouldn't idolatry only be reprehensible within Islam, while accepted outside? Can't we accept idol-ism as a religion stamped with Allah's authority at some stage in previous times? From the outside what is Kaaba then? Isn't it a grand idol itself, full of symbolism. What is the difference between the Kaaba and a Hindu idol? Aren't both pointers to a superior Being?

But this hate for idol-ism is seeded in frustration, fumed by the others (Hindus) inability to see the truth, especially if the truth is out there, in the revelation of the Quran, for everyone to see.The immediate argument triggered by the above is a duty imposed by Quran on all believers to spread the good message. I agree absolutely with the above statement. My only reservation is the manner used by us Muslims to do so. I find we too readily disparage other great religions and even our own sects.

The only way I can understand this relationship is a child-parent analogy. Consider the youngest child (Islam) trying to impart perennial and ever present wisdom to his parents (Catholicism?) or grand parents (Judaism) or great grandparents (Hinduism) even. Surely any realistic hope of getting the older parents to change or mend their ways lies in the outcomes of the child's right actions. Also any wise or premature cracks at the set ways of the parents will prove to be counter productive surely? It is a difficult task indeed, for the child firstly, must detach itself from the parents for everyday sustenance and become independent. Next it must keep its views to himself, and hope to attract the change in his elders from his good behaviour and effective results of right actions.It must bide its time for the moment of crises. For in times of crises the greatest bonding occurs. You can also effect the greatest change when you come out of crises. When in a crises situation, a parent,weak and emaciated, may find some of the new ideas of the child as logical or sensible. That is the time to strike a change in the parents.

Please help me if I am wrong....